You can’t stop thinking about them.
You’ve tried. You’ve talked yourself through every reason it doesn’t make sense, and it changes nothing — the thought comes back on its own, and the pull is stronger than your argument against it.
Maybe it’s one person you can’t get out of your head. Maybe it’s the same kind of person, over and over, or the same cycle every time you get close to someone. It looks like it’s about them — this one, that one, the next one. It isn’t. It’s an old way of reaching for something you needed a long time ago, still running now, still picking the target. Once you can see it working, it stops getting to choose for you.
The person behind this
I’m Madalina
I’m the creator of You, Reclaimed.
I’m not writing this from the far side of all this — I spent years caught in exactly this, fixated on things I couldn’t understand or stop. I was never sure whether the problem was out there or in me.
I climbed out far enough to see how it worked, and I kept the map. That’s what’s here.
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